
Title:
The collapse of parenting : how we hurt our kids when we treat them like grown-ups : the three things you must do to help your child or teen become a fulfilled adult
Author:
Publication Date:
2016
Publication Information:
New York : Basic Books, a member of the Perseus Books Group, [2016]
©2016
Physical Description:
vii, 287 pages : illustrations ; 22 cm
ISBN:
9780465048977
Abstract:
In The Collapse of Parenting, physician, psychologist, and author Leonard Sax presents data documenting a dramatic decline in the achievement and psychological health of American children. Sax argues that rising levels of obesity, depression, and anxiety among young people -- as well as the explosion in prescribing psychiatric medications to kids -- can all be traced to parents letting their kids call the shots. Many parents are afraid of seeming too dictatorial and end up abdicating their authority rather than taking a stand with their own children. If kids refuse to eat anything green and demand pizza instead, some parents give in, inadvertently raising children who are more likely to become obese. If children are given smartphones and allowed to spend the bulk of their free time texting, playing video games, and surfing the Internet, they become increasingly reliant on peers and the media for guidance on how to live, rather than getting such guidance at home. And if they won’t sit still in class or listen to adults, they’re often prescribed medication, a quick fix that actually undermines their self-control. In short, Sax argues, parents are failing to prioritize the parent-child relationship and are allowing a child-peer dynamic to take precedence. The result is children who have no absolute standard of right and wrong, who lack discipline, and who look to their peers and the Internet for direction, instead of looking to their parents. But there is hope. Sax shows how parents can help their kids by reasserting their authority -- by limiting time with screens, by encouraging better habits at the dinner table and at bedtime, and by teaching humility and perspective.
Contents:
Introduction: Parents adrift -- The culture of disrespect -- Why are so many kids overweight? -- Why are so many kids on medication? -- Why are American students falling behind? -- Why are so many kids so fragile? -- What matters? -- Misconceptions -- The first thing: Teach humility -- The second thing: Enjoy -- The third thing: The meaning of life.
Language:
English